- Make the child give money or messages from one parent to another and putting the child in the middle.
- Ask the child to hides something from the other parent and in effect teaching them to lie.
- Interrogate the child about what is happening in the home of the other parent and therefore turning the child into becoming a spy and into gossiping.
- You should not say nasty things about the other parent to the child or in the presence of them.
- Treat Matters involving parents in exchange for visits. Those moments are extremely tense for many, sometimes this causes the child to feel like they are living in the air.
- Show a long sad face when the child goes from one parent to another, thus teaching the child to be unfair.
- Tell the child who wants a new toy or want to do something that costs money and then tell him or her : “Ask your father because he does not pay me enough child support” or ” Ask him to your mother because I give enough money for child support and she waste it”.
- Ask the child directly or subtly, “which of the two parents you really want to live with?”, Thereby putting emotional weight on child.
- Allow the child to take possession of the situation whenever he or she so desires.